MopTop Curly Hair Custard

“(Reddit won't allow me to write in the first post so I'm putting it here) This is very much a hair victory post but also a help post because wtf???? Lately I've been struggling a bit because I've been feeling like my curls were starting to disappear. I've been using Umberto Giannini, the curl jelly line (shampoo, conditioner and gel). I also have the issue that my upper layers are very dry and frizzy, so I'm always trying to hydrate them but nothing seems to work. Yesterday I decided to put Aunt Jackie's Curl La La custard all over my hair after wetting it, hoping that might help my hair curl again, but after I diffused it it was awful. Dry, dull, frizzy, almost entirely straight. Then, in a fit of utter despair, I just washed it all out. Used the Umberto Giannini shampoo, then the conditioner but as always, I noticed it made my hair feel very... Stiff, almost? Heavy? Solid? So i thought, what the heck, and used the Cantu cleansing cream shampoo, which my hair usually LOATHES (starts feeling like straw when I use it), just to see what would happen. After that I applied the UG curl jelly, squeezed the excess water out... Then blow-dried without the diffuser on. And dear people... My flabbers were gasted. My dumb? Founded. Bammed and boozled thoroughly. Long story short, apparently my hair is like some sort of weed growing from a crack in concrete. Apparently it doesn't like conditioner. Apparently it enjoys being abused. I don't know anymore. But it looks fantastic. It's curly beyond what I thought possible - EVEN MY BANGS!!! WHILE MY HAIR USUALLY ONLY BEGINS TO CURL WITH SIGNIFICANT LENGTH!!!!! I guess my question is...... what the hell am I supposed to do now? How do I hydrate my dry frizzy hair if it hates being hydrated? What does this mean? What does it ALL mean??? Does anyone have a similar experience? Advice? Insights? PLEASE.”